Dating calling vs texting
If you ask around, some people will tell you to wait for "this many days" before you make contact, but that strategy is flat-out silly.
Dating columnist Dr Nerdlove told us that you should always touch base sooner rather than later.
It might be fine with your friends, but it will make a bad impression on someone you're romantically interested in.
Chatspeak can also be easily misunderstood if the receiver doesn't know the abbreviations you use.
As Ansari and Dr Klinenberg explain, the "hey" text seems like a perfectly harmless message to send, but that one word says a lot more than you realise. It makes the recipient feel like they're not very special or important, and it makes you as the sender seem the same way.
No information is being shared, nothing is being asked of the recipient, and it's incredibly easy to ignore.
Here's the best way to approach texting someone you want to date, according to the experts. How long do you wait to message that cute guy from the gym?
It's like you're on your second date in terms of info, but you first date in terms of physical chemistry, which can make things awkward. by the time you meet your partner for an actual date, you've built up this whole image and fantasy in your head of who you think they are, and then they turn out to be totally different. During their focus groups, Ansari and Dr Klinenberg also noticed a texting trend they dubbed the "secretary problem", where potential couples would spend so much time trying to "pencil each other in" they would burn out and the spark would fizzle before the first meetup.