How soon after divorce to start dating
After the stress of going through a divorce, it can be difficult to think about dating again.
Everyone has their own timeline for when they might want to get out there.
“Have you done something that's an affirmation of yourself and your life -- made a new friend, taken up a new sport, gotten a haircut? “You open your heart to new relationships when you're resilient enough to endure the minuses of dating to get the pluses.” Your identity has nothing to do with your dating status.
“I also saw that my ex wasn't the only guy who would want to be with me.
“When you drop off the kids at school, there might be a single person there, but you don't know them.” Some single parents don't date because they're worried about the effect it may have on their children.
You don't let your children make other decisions for you, so don't let them keep you from dating if that’s something you want to do. “Do a very slow introduction of a new partner,” Sills says.
"Separation or divorce is an emotionally draining time.
Although it might be tempting to lick your wounds with positive attention from another, this distraction can actually inhibit you from the healing work that is necessary to move forward in a healthy way with someone in the future." "If the 'why' is to avoid painful feelings like hurt, anger, or loneliness, then it may be helpful to take some time to heal before jumping back into dating," says Jaclyn Friedenthal, Psy. "If the 'why' is because you have taken time to heal, you now to date, and you're willing to feel all the emotions involved in dating again, then it’s a good sign that you're ready."More important than the length of time is what one does during that time," says Christina Jones, LCSW.