The ten commandments of dating online
Instead of clicking “yes” or “no” on a smartphone, it’s crucial to use your intuition when broaching matters of intimacy on a dating app date, even if it’s just a kiss.“Dating is more like a dance than a game,” says Mason.The research revealed that most of the lies people tell on dating apps derive from wanting to present ourselves in ways we think the other person will deem attractive.
“Basically you want to invite a conversation, not merely state your presence.” Thou shalt not play ‘the waiting game’ Tempting as it may be, it’s best not to play games with your beloved when it comes to communication i.e.
“There is a reason why there’s a rise in dating coaching,” Mason points out, “many people have little clue on how best to date successfully and for those who have met IRL, their empathetic, well-meaning advice is often inefficient, especially when it comes to things like what photos should go up on a dating profile.” Don’t listen to your smug pals, dear single camel, you and your humps got this.
Thou shalt ‘play the field’ with caution Dating apps endorse a degree of polyamory due to the way they work.
So when we meet someone we fancy online, it’s tempting to become an effusive people-pleaser in the hope that your affections will be reciprocated.
Yet going overboard with the compliments so early on (think: “your eyes are beautiful like the sun” and “you’re more irresistible than chocolate”) is risky, argues dating psychologist Madeleine Mason. Thou shalt not be neither cat nor kittenfish By dint of being exclusively online platforms, dating apps foster a culture of deception.
A study from 2017 revealed that similar texting habits can be key to finding love online, but that doesn’t mean you need to match someone’s response time to the minute.