Tired of internet dating
But logic often pales in comparison to real-world experience.
When you're only getting messages from people like "hey ur pretty wanna c my dick lol," it's easy to get discouraged.
That idea isn't always so obvious—maybe you don't think you're choosing for those reasons, but in the back of your mind, you're still thinking about how envious your ex would be if they happened to run into you and this new person on the street.
Sure, everyone has revenge fantasies, but online dating with them in mind is a clue you may be too caught up in your last relationship to do what actually makes you happy. But it's probably also a sign that you're not meeting anyone you feel is worth putting on pants and leaving the house for.
It doesn't really matter what the reason behind this one is.
In that you're not doing it because it's genuinely enjoyable, but because of the nagging sense of guilt you'd feel if you didn't.
Those feelings of obligation may come from friends and family who are eager for you to settle down, or maybe they're even self-imposed because you feel like you aren't doing enough IRL to meet someone. Maybe deep down you don't want a relationship, or maybe you'd rather meet someone offline. Statistically impossible, given the number of human beings on this planet.
It’s confusing to me to what extent I should take initiative, and to what extent I should just wait…
Sending a thoughtful message and not getting any acknowledgement, even if it’s that they’re not interested.
Sometimes there really are things you could do better!